She spent 5 years believing her best friend tried to sa her the truth is much more disgusting 5 years ago when I was 23 I had been working with a company that handled Hospitality training and stuff like that what we did really wasn’t important but at that point I had
Been with the company for about 3 years already Mark had gotten hired around the same time as I had and we did a lot of training and stuff together got put in the same call center group and all around just became extremely close friends that hung out after work since
We lived close to each other and we were both unattached to point out how close we had gotten since we were both single folks in the company and our department always made jokes that we needed to just say screw the company policies and start dating we always laughed it off because
At the end of the day we both had made it abundantly clear to each other that we only saw each other as friends for what it’s worth I don’t remember how the conversation came up but it had and it was just a strictly platonic relationship so yeah we were basically
Attached at the hip for about 2 and a half years when I met Paul at the time 29 a.m. and currently 34 a.m. and I began dating him Paul and Mark got along fine at first somewhat but a few months into dating Paul started to get upset if
I said I was going to grab dinner with Mark after work even if Paul was working at the time since he had his own long hours for what it was worth Mark seemed to understand where Paul was coming from and only grabbed dinner with me when I asked him never prompting it himself
Well on my 24th birthday I decided to throw a party at my apartment and when Paul flaked on helping me get supplies Mark stepped in and helped even going out and buying the line share of the booze for the party the party got going and Paul ended up showing up an hour
After most of the others were there after a few hours most of the people started heading out leaving and a few people slept in the living room because they were too drunk to drive and then there was Mark Paul and myself Mark insisted I go lay down since it was my
Birthday and he knew I was already pretty drunk myself so it wasn’t right for me to clean up after my own party so I said good night night to everyone and Paul helped me back to the room like I said I was pretty drunk and while I
Remember the night I also remember being very off my normal composure but he put me in my bed on my side facing the wall and then laughed and I pretty quickly dozed off the next thing I remember is loud music blaring in the room and feeling completely bound I was still
Inebriated but as I tried to move around I could feel I was tied to the bed and could feel someone on top of me I was laying on my stomach and there was a hand on the back of my head pushing it into a pillow so I couldn’t see anything
And I could feel someone trying to pull my pajamas down stumbling to do so and then this person was shoving his hand up against me someone was pounding at the door until I heard a loud crack and then Mark and Paul’s voices arguing the pressure pulled off my head and I could
See one of them pulling the other away but in the darkness I couldn’t tell who was doing what but there was a lot of screaming and crashing a few minutes later Paul comes back in the room and en ties me from the bed and just holds me
Telling me Mark had been trying to sa me I wanted to file a police report but Paul convinced me not to since he had gotten there in time and nothing had happened according to him which I should have taken as a red flag but I just
Didn’t at the time because I was so relieved that I had been saved I took a few days off from work blocked mark on all social media but not before he texted me trying to tell me that Paul had been the one to attack me and that
He was the one that saved me I didn’t believe him because it had been Paul that came in and untied me though and if Paul had been trying then why would he do that plus we were dating and it just didn’t didn’t make any sense to me so I
Thought Mark had just snapped or something I ended up quitting from the company before my time off ended because I had been starting to look at advancements in my career and moving on so I just decided that was my sign and tried to run away from it all Paul and I
Kept dating for about six months after that until I caught him cheating on me with a lady from his office maybe this should have been a bigger red flag to me too but i’ had been trying to distance myself from what had happened and then life just went on I got comfortable in
My new job stayed away from getting too friendly with anyone from work and have never had a close guy friend again occasionally I’d see Mark at the grocery store or around town like I said we had lived close to each other and neither of us moved and I never felt the need to
Since he kept his distance from me completely and I thought I was mostly over what had happened half a decade ago until I get a notification a few hours ago that Paul had messaged me I thought that was odd because I had blocked him he made a new account though but I
Opened the messaged up anyway because of curiosity I don’t want to share the whole message because there’s a lot of personal details in it so I’m just going to hit the important details so according to him one Paul is an alcoholic and has been for years even
Back when we first started dating he pretty much was always drinking something or looking for an excuse two he got fired from his job for showing up to work drunk and assaulting the receptionist by trying to force his tongue down her throat in the front lobby at 9:00 a.m. he was in court
Mandated AA and as a part of his recovery he was trying to make amends with anyone he is wronged because of his habit and finally three Mark never tried to sa me it was him he had been jealous of my friendship with Mark and saw an opportunity to get him out of the
Picture because of how gouble I was his words I’m not going to lie I threw up after reading the whole thing he had so much detail behind all of it that I just felt sick to my stomach that he remembered everything from how he had secretly put Ties on my bed before I
Even went to sleep once he saw how drunk I was getting to how he would beat the hell out of Mark and threatened to end his life if he went to the cops I know it’s not a healthy reaction but I’ve been drinking a bit since all of that
Message hit my inbox trying to decide what to do I know I need to call my therapist to talk about all of this but my mind keeps going back to Mark and how betrayed he must have felt over it all I even unblocked him on all my social
Media he never blocked me so his profiles popped back up pretty quickly and I’ve been trying to decide if I should message him or not I know logically that Paul should be the one messaging him as a part of his AA stuff but I’m also pretty sure that markk did
Block him since Paul mentioned not being able to find him on social media but he also might not have remembered Mark’s last name either so it might be hard to find him so I guess my question is should I message Mark what should I even say sorry I didn’t believe you when you
Said you didn’t try to sa me edit a close friend of mine answered her phone and is swinging by to spend the night with me here just so I have a shoulder to cry on because I could just use a good cry right now I’m going to leave
Mark alone for now while I get my thought in order but I’ll probably send him a message in a few days once I can talk to my therapist I also did put the wine away it was not helpful right now and I don’t want to make the wrong
Decision and message Mark strictly on a somewhat drunk impulse now here are some relevant comments one user said yes you should message him because that has to be an open wound for him that never healed if he came in to try and stop Paul and ended up being the bad guy when
He was actually the good guy it is a punch in the gut and never being believed about it is a constant pain that never really goes away good luck and that Paul guy glad he isn’t a part of your life anymore then op replied with this is exactly why my mind has
Been going to mark because I feel so incredibly guilty I’ve been sort of I guess cyber stalking him a bit here and it seems like he’s had an okay life but I just feel like I owe him some sort of message now vany user 2 said all I will
Say is that you shouldn’t be surprised if Mark wants nothing to do with you after you tarnished his name and kind of his soul in away I will bet that because of this there’s more than a couple of people that think of him as Mark the
Abuser and not just Mark I hope you learned that you shouldn’t believe the first story you’re told when someone else’s life is in the crosshairs of your poorly informed decisions y’all can get mad at that if you want but this isn’t a time to coddle anybody’s feelings to avoid speaking and uncomfortable truth
There can be two sides of an argument without anybody needing to go call their therapist because they got triggered over an ounce of opposition I’m sorry any of this happened to you at all that should have never happened but what happened to him is even worse and at the
End of the day you are the villain of his story while I completely understand that might be Mark’s reaction and it is totally understandable if it is I went to make it clear that I don’t ever go around calling him that or outright telling anyone even though my first
Instinct was to file a police report Paul had stopped me when I had brought it up and in hindsight it’s probably because the investigation might have revealed it was him but I never told the company I was quitting because of Mark or anything like that and only a handful
Of my close friends and my therapist even know of the assault while that doesn’t stop gossip which may be what you’re referring to I don’t actively go out on the streets screaming Mark was an S I’m also not saying I expect to even want to be close friends with him again
And maybe now this is just my own selfish guilt that is telling me I need to tell him but as other commenters have mentioned and I am taking the advice of it’s better for me to process this new information and talk to my therapist first update next day I went to to bed
Last night after putting the wine away when my friend got here and woke up to so many comments and PMs that I can’t quite get back to everyone without being repetitive so I want to just answer a few common things I’ve been messaged or seing one in a comment I mentioned I
Have told a handful of friends to be specific I told three plus my therapist I didn’t have a whole lot of close friends back then and wasn’t part of a big friend group either that said one of those three were here with me last night
After I got a hold of her and she’s every bit as disgusted as pretty much everyone else I can’t say for sure if any of them have told anyone and honestly given the passing of time I wouldn’t expect them to have the same crystal clear image of who they might
Have told but I do understand this might have spread without me knowing two I am looking into the statute of limitations in reporting in my state here from everything I’ve read over coffee this morning I believe it hasn’t passed and as several have mentioned he literally gave me a written confession and number
Three as for how I didn’t realize Paul was an alcoholic well I don’t have a good answer for that I’m going mostly based on his message that told me he was always drinking even back then we weren’t living together and as I mentioned there were plenty of days that
I didn’t see him versus when I did and I don’t even know if he was even working late all the times he told me he was continuing I have texted my therapist and I am waiting for a reply now I’m hopeful she has some time this afternoon
Or tomorrow so that I can speak with her but my friend is staying with me for the time being until then just so that I don’t have to be alone right now and I can’t say just how much I appreciate appreciate it to those of you that have
Provided advice or shared your stories with me thank you deeply from the bottom of my heart thank you last night when I received that message I was thrown for such a loop that I didn’t know where to begin or how to unpack it all given the
Time that had passed Old Wounds can be reopened so easily and this one was a scar that didn’t need much to make it pop update number two I would like to start this off by first saying I haven’t gone back to the wine though I did Super desperately want to yesterday I haven’t
Really been much of a Wine Drinker since that night 5 years ago and last week when I learned the disgusting truth about Paul to those of you hoping I would file a police report I did I spoke with my therapist at length the Monday following my post and she was shocked
But extremely helpful in helping me process everything and she spent some time at the end of our session looking up the statute of limitation laws in my state there are none but she did warn me that my report might just be added to a pile of other charges Paul could
Possibly have against him given that he was assigned Court mandated AA all the same I filed the report with the screenshots of his messages to me printed and attached I’m not sure what to expect from that and at the end of the day I hope he has an absolutely
Terrible life if it goes nowhere now as for Mar my therapist was insistent that I at the very least write him something whether it be a letter to mail him or a message on Facebook he never reached out to me after I unblocked him but given
What he thought I thought of him I think it’s understandable my therap pist like many of you pointed out that while he knew he was innocent the thought of someone believing him capable of something terrible like that could have weighed on him for all this time and
Even if his reception of my message wasn’t ideal he deserved at the least closure that this new turn of events could provide I took a few days writing and rewriting a message into a notepad I didn’t want to accidentally hit send before I had the wording right and each
Time I sat down to write I felt like I came up short even though the message just got longer and longer again I didn’t think just saying oh guess what I learned Paul is an absolute psychopath last week surprise would have been super appropriate either but I wanted to find
The right balance here’s the message I ended up sending him hi Mark so this is a bit out of the blue and I really don’t know how to start this so I’m just going to put it out there I’m sorry for not listening to you Paul messaged me last
Week and revealed everything and I’m just sorry this isn’t easy to write and you deserve so much more than just an apology so long after the fact there’s no EX excuse for me not giving you the benefit of the doubt other than I let myself be stupidly gaslit by a
Psychopathic Maniac then I sent Mark a screenshot of Paul’s message to me pretty much confessing and then I continued with this is the message he sent me it even confesses to an assault on you in the event that you’d like to press charges against him and I have
Already filed a police report for what he did to me if you’d like to talk about any of this at all my inbox is open if you want to tell me to f off well I guess I understand that too I’m not sure what I expect really because this had
Ripped an open wound I had been trying to heal and I’m not sure this might cause you some distress but I felt you at the very least deserve to know anyway back to me I know I could probably have said more but anytime I kept trying to
Write I felt like it was just me making excuses I sent that to him this past Friday and I’m pretty sure he read it sometime between Friday and Saturday as the red notification had been there when I checked Facebook again at lunch on Sunday I had been out with my friend
Jenny who stayed over with me after I learned the truth when I told her I had messaged Mark she wondered if he had responded so I checked last night at about 600 p.m. my phone dinged and while I thought it might have been a text from
Jenny or maybe Mom I don’t really text or talk to a lot of people I actually found that Mark had sent me a reply he said I wish you would have listened to me back then but I’m glad you know the truth I thought that was all he was
Going to send me when the three dots kept going across the bottom of my screen he was still typing when he sent me pictures as well they were graphic and Paul’s assertion that he had beat the hell out of Mark did in fact act also come with documented proof from him
In the form of pictures Mark went on to explain that he filed an assault report the next day after my birthday but that the police had warned him against accusing Paul of saing me given the turn of events and my don’t speak to me again
Text I sent him when he tried to explain himself nothing had ever come of his police report and he wasn’t even sure why neither am I but he intended to follow up once more today Mark is still very much the kind person I remember him
Being and while I was bracing for him to hold a grudge against against me he instead just expressed his happiness that I finally knew the truth we exchanged small talk through chat for a little while but it was nowhere near the conversations we used to have Mark is
Actually engaged to a girl he has been dating for about 2 years now he had apparently never brought any of this up to her until she saw my name flash on his screen with a notification and asked who I was while some of you expressed concern that my friends had smeared his
Name he apparently never heard anything of it he actually still works for the same company we had both been at just now in a copyrighting Ro for the marketing team so at the very least the lack of a police report for me making a scene at work worked out in his favor
There I asked him if we could keep in touch even if only with small talk and he said that he thought that would be okay though he was a lot busier than he was back then between work and planning his wedding while I thought that was
Going to be the end of it he messaged me a few hours ago to let me know he refiled his police report with the added messages I had sent him and that if I’d be open to it he also said he’d like to meet for coffee with his fiance in town
And a friend of mine if I felt more comfortable doing it that way not really sure if that’s an entirely good idea but I shot Jenny a text to see what she thinks and if she’d be open to coming along with me she said it’s ultimately
Up to me what I decide to do and she’d be there with me either way so yeah that’s the update for those of you who have reached out and asked update Mark and I are planning to meet for coffee here this weekend with some added supervision I think as fiance is curious
Of my intentions which is fair I have both apologized to him at this point but also as many of you pointed out he deserved a giant thank you too I know some of you are telling me to leave him alone but he was the one to suggest the
Meeting and in all fairness I owe him at least a coffee and much more truthfully words cannot stress how forgiving he has been over what is transpired and though I’m trying not to blame myself for believing the psychopath it’s not as easy as just letting it go I know in
Making my post some would blame me that’s just Reddit but being able to put this out there has allowed me some sense of relief in some ways that just talking with my therapist didn’t fully accomplish police reports have been filed against Paul and I do hope
Something comes from it I know he’s in AA and some have messaged me saying I’m a monster for airing this out when he’s trying to better himself seriously I got at least five DMS to that tune but to hell with that the crap he did to me
Does not get absolved just because he fessed up 5 years after the fact final update I haven’t opened this account in close to a year and a half and honestly never expected to come back back to it after I aired out learning about the gaslighting monster that had attacked me
Over half a decade ago the reason I’m back to posting on this throwaway account is primarily out of Joy my attacker Paul had a slew of other court dates already when I filed my case against him and I had started to lose hope that anything was going to happen
Since I was reporting an incident from over 5 years ago but the court system in my state was stupidly overbooked and I just had to wait for things to take their natural course over the last few months I started to get followup calls from an investigator that was apparently
Going over the details of Paul’s case he was already facing some time in prison over a different assault charge his time in AA had proven not to be effective with trying to make amends and the prosecutor was looking to add my report of sa to an overall criminal case
Against him but it would require me to submit either a document to provide us testimony or to act as an in-person witness though I had received Paul’s message I hadn’t interacted or seen him in person for well over 4 years and my therapist suggested I might get some
Closure over testifying against him in court this finally happened last week it was hard and I won’t lie I cried while I was in the stand but it felt good the years hadn’t been kind to Paul and while he certainly looked remorseful sitting in the courtroom I couldn’t give two FS
About how this was going to affect him I left after that and found out just this morning that between his various cases he’s going to prison I’m not sure how long but I also know he is being added to the sex offender database which is another win as far as I am concerned
Other than that my life has been going pretty well I’ve decided to throw myself into some new hobbies another suggestion by my therapist and overall have tried to just become the best version of myself as possible my old friend Mark who had taken the blame for Paul’s
Actions for so long got married in the middle of last year and while he and his fiance had offered me an invitation I didn’t feel like it was my place to attend we hadn’t been in contact for so long and I didn’t want to have anyone
Asking me questions on why I was there when I didn’t really have any other friends attending the event we message every so often but he’s got his own life and it’s not my place to intrude on that I’m just happy that Paul’s BS never got to derail his life in any huge way
Outside of the obvious I will probably never have reason to log back into this account again and really only did it today because I was just so Overjoyed in hearing the results that it reminded me I had vented to you all so long ago now to everyone who has reached out to check
In on me thank you I appreciate each and every one of you so if you are a longer time viewer or a recurring viewer you know that I am Pro communication and one of the stories I don’t really like and that we’ve gotten a lot of is when
Someone is accused of something falsely accused of something and isn’t allowed to explain their side of the story or isn’t heard out and I kind of have to consistently keep that mindset uh to here because I believe that in other instances and this is just like that and
That one comment mentioned that she didn’t listen to him she I understand she went through something traumatic I’m not taking that away from her I understand that Paul did something bad I’m not you know trying to unacknowledged to him and I am someone who’s very Pro commmunication so for
That I am not satisfied but I am satisfied that op and Mark have reconciled I’m happy that his life didn’t get ruined it’s unfortunate he got beat up over this though by the way he got freaking beat up by Mark or Paul he got beat up by Paul but but op got
Her closure Mark got married Paul went to jail they reconciled and I would say overall this is a pretty positive ending and I’m not going to hate on op here I’m not like saying she’s a terrible person I just believe in communication but I understand why it happened but I’m not
Necessarily happy that her not listening to Mark happened but anyway what do you guys think next story story number two my 31m wife 29f left me for another man how do I move on after giving up everything for her a week ago my wife Marie told me she fell in love with
Another man it was so unexpected and I didn’t see this coming she was the person who taught me what it is like to be in love I was married to a woman Amanda who I loved but I wasn’t in love with I was with my ex-wife for 8 years
We got together when I was 20 we have a kid who is turning five this Thanksgiving when I met Marie I was married and happy she had a fiance Marie threw a wrench in that we formed a connection I never thought possible I could talk to Marie for hours all day
She was extremely beautiful the best looking woman I have ever been with one of the hardest things to do was tell Amanda I was in love with another woman it crushed her she refused to sign the divorce papers and demanded we go to therapy eventually she gave in but that
Was hard seeing a woman I still care for being in so much pain she doesn’t talk to me unless it’s about our kid and that hurts but I did all that for Marie I even moved across the country from Virginia to Seattle because Marie wanted
To be on the the West Coast I don’t get to see my little girl as much because she’s still in Virginia and despite all that she still left we had a great marriage and I did so much to keep her happy and it wasn’t enough no warning
Last week I found out she’s leaving I am depressed and I’ve just been lying in bed I don’t know what to do edit I am still involved in my daughter’s life for the hateful comments criticizing my parental decisions I call her just about every day edit two I never cheated on
Amanda I broke things off before I did anything romantic with Marie because I respected Amanda too much I still care for her she was my friend and is still the mother of my child now here are some relevant comments user one said unfortunately cheaters cheat now you
Know what you put Amanda through I’m sorry for your pain but let it guide you to better choices in the future yeah I had no idea she was that type of person we both made sure to end things with our significant others before pursuing anything romantic unfortunately she’s
Been having an affair with this guy for 2 months now couldn’t even give me the respect of ending things with me first then op posed a question in the comment section that sad so if you fell in love with someone else and realize you were never in love with your significant
Other you would just ignore it then user two replied to that question and said well you put yourself in a position to fall in love with someone else but if I put myself in this spot I would go to coup’s therapy to understand why/how I
Got to that point and figure out how to a co-parent if you had done therapy you may have figured out how you let yourself be in an emotional affair without even realizing it you might want to do some research into limerance talk to a therapist and decide whether or not
You were ever really in love with Marie you changed the trajectory of your life your ex-wife your child and Marie’s fiance’s lives for a woman who is apparently a Serial cheater did you ever question why she wanted to live on the west coast I wonder if it was to control
Or limit your interactions with your exes and daughter I still wouldn’t call it an emotional affair but Amanda really wanted to do therapy when I told her and to try and make things work I go back in fourth because when I told her she thought it was something she did she
Kept asking what she did to make me unhappy but it was nothing she was a great girlfriend wife and mother sometimes I wonder if I just tried therapy would we at the very least still be friends it hurt a lot that I didn’t fight for our marriage once she realized
I wasn’t budging and wasn’t willing to try anything she became cold to this day I want my friend back update I’m finally starting to heal I probably won’t date for a long time but I’m starting to hang out with my friends more I was very depressed for a month and I still am
I’ve tried to rekindle my friendship with Amanda but she’s not interested she told me how I feel about Marie is how she felt when I left her I reassured her that it wasn’t her it was me and that Marie brought out something that I never
Felt before I told her she was a great wife and she will find someone who loves her the way way I loved Marie even after all that she told me she doesn’t want to talk to me unless it’s about her daughter and has ironically been more
Cold the good news is I started a new hobby I’ve been going roller skating we formed this amateur team and the people there are really amazing I have been keeping myself busy by doing all sorts of activities here are some more relevant comments one user said there’s nothing ironic about her coldness you’re
Acting like it doesn’t make sense it does you don’t give a single solitary damn about Amanda you’re just lonely and trying to convince her to let you use her until the next Marie comes along thankfully you’re the idiot in this conversation you showed your ass and she
Was smart enough to give it a great big kick your wife is not a standin for the star of your romantic life she’s your ex she doesn’t even remotely care that you are lonely and she shouldn’t she has her own life to live here we go again I
Explained before I do care about Amanda more than anything she was my friend I knew her for a long time I tried to stay friends with her following our divorce this isn’t a new thing she is the one who rejected my friendship for years I completely understand why but I didn’t
Just decide out of the blue I want to be friends she knows I want to be friends with her but the ball is in her court and has been the entire time update I’m going through a really bad divorce where my wife cheated on me and I planned on
Staying single for a while the thing is I’m starting to develop a crush on this person I go bowling with I’ve been depressed and started doing activities to keep myself busy it is the first time I started having feelings for someone else what’s holding me back is I still
Love my ex I got a new job and will be moving from Seattle to Phoenix soon update two I will try to condense this as much as possible I was with my first wife Amanda for 8 years and have a beautiful daughter unfortunately during our marriage I fell in love with someone
Else that woman ended up cheating and leaving me I tried to maintain a friendship with Amanda because even though I realized I didn’t love her she was still my friend anyway I was talking to a mutual friend and she told me Amanda put herself out there and went on
A date and has been talking to this guy after we got off the phone I called Amanda but she didn’t answer so I texted her we need to talk Amanda eventually calls back and I ask her about our daughter our daughter spent the weekend at my parents house she told me she will
Pick her up in the evening then I told her this serious question I asked her are you still in love with me she said unfortunately with an attitude I said then why would you think it’s a good idea to date right now she got angry and
Said that it’s none of my business I told her I’m coming to you as a friend dating while still in love with me is not going to help she said her therapist said it’s time to put herself out there I told her that her therapist sounds like a horrible therapist she told me
Shut up she said do you know how much this impacted me she said I loved you and always tried to be a great wife for you and that wasn’t good enough I interrupted her on the phone and just said Amanda I then told her that I get
It when Marie laughed I couldn’t even finish my sentence before she said you you are a freaking prick and then she hung up and blocked me and blocked me on Facebook I don’t know I’m trying to look out for her because she is the mother of
My child update number three I have copi and pasted the email she sent back to me it says I appreciate your apology I have a lot to say I can’t stand talking to you anymore I’ve already spoken to your parents and they agreed that all communication should go through them
I’ve said multiple times that I only want to talk if it’s about our child and you refuse to respect that I don’t think you realize or care but your behavior since that person left you has been nothing short of disrespectful the impact this has had on my mental health
Has been insane even though you don’t care and don’t tell me you do saying you care doesn’t mean anything I’m going to try to explain it to you I’ve tried to explain this to you multiple times but you always turn it back to yourself I
Love you I wish I didn’t and I don’t know why you are the love of my life as dumb as it is I wish you still were my husband every time I talk to you it’s a reminder of the life that I lost please going forward if you actually
Care about me respect my boundaries as hard as it was when that person left you imagine if you had a child with her and had to talk to her every day as she explains that you couldn’t make her happy but this other man can and then
The email ended I’m not sure how to respond I took everyone’s advice but I’m kind of hurt my parents went behind my back and basically agreed to act as a liaison of communication for us without talking to me I’m trying to respect her boundaries but what about being being
Able to talk to my daughter because of her blocking me from the phone I haven’t been able to talk to my daughter it’s already hard living so far and not being able to see my beautiful girl as much as I would like I want to respect the
Boundary she’s placing but I can’t agree to anything that will have me talk to my daughter less update number four I didn’t realize it until last night I just moved to a new place and my neighbor she was taking me to drinks and she said you don’t open much do you I
Hope I can go back to the old me but my ex-wife took something from me I was more vulnerable with her than any other woman including my first wife she taught me what love is I made so many sacrifices for that woman and she’s still cheated I’ve been keeping myself
Busy as it hasn’t even been 6 months since it happened but when I make new friends like my neighbor it’s hard to let my guard down I just wanted to ask her why are you so nice what’s your end goal I didn’t do that obviously but I
Miss the old me update number five I’ve been taking in a lot of people comments and I have a lot to say most of the comments have been me and hurtful that being said I decided to use it to self-reflect and grow some common things I learned people feel like I’m not
Taking accountability for what happened to Amanda I want people to know I take full responsibility I have to learn that even though my intentions were in the right place that doesn’t change the hurt people think I want Amanda back not true I want people to know that I do
Empathize with what happened I care about her and want her to find someone I just don’t think it’s healthy to date while in love with someone else people think I abandoned my daughter not true I’m doing my best to be in her life still I do take accountability for the
Pain I unintentionally caused Amanda I still care about her and what’s best for her I fell in love with another woman and I wish I didn’t I was horrified when it happened right now I just need someone in my corner I need comfort and to heal I hope this clears up any
Misconception before you comment on my post understand that I take full responsibility and I’m looking for ways to grow as a person I can’t be the father I want with my mental health in the gutter and this is why I need comfort in doing things to help me get
Out of this depression this guy is something else oh my goodness oh my goodness so I’m glad that at the end he recognized that you know he has to take accountability but he’s like I fell in love with my bowling partner like this dude is just like romantically and
Emotionally immature I’m glad he’s recognizing stuff but it came way too far down the line I don’t want to say too little too late but you know better late than ever but just way too far down the line and he still hasn’t mentioned therapy he says I have to find ways to
Improve myself how about you go to therapy bro because you need it also it seems like he’s picking up all these activities so he doesn’t have to be alone with his thoughts like that’s what I was thinking he’s like oh I’m doing this I’m doing that and then he like
Meets his new neighbor and he goes out for drinks with her this guy just seems to latch on to any woman who gives him attention it seems like he almost understands what’s going on it seems like he almost grasps the concepts but it seems like he just needs a little
Help but anyway guys what do you think about this story I’m sure you guys have a lot to say on this one but everyone thank you so much for watching the video and I am going to do a double backflip the second this video ends so you won’t
See it don’t ask for any video evidence but anyway bye-bye
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