Number one thing that a woman withholds in a relationship or a marriage and the number one thing that we withhold is is how your husband feels loved and respected your husband is not a woman sadly as women we will also drag our husbands to couples counseling so we
Have to understand as women that is incredibly important to men and we know that that’s why we use as a weapon and women will be the first to argue my husband broke his vows my husband does not follow his vows he’s the one that’s not committed again that is a
Projection of ourselves and our own lack of commitment in our marriage but we need to be reminded is really really simple okay it’s just this it’s not any of all the stuff we’ve made it it’s just a nice simp simple enjoyable pleasure that we can have with
The one person we can have sex with our husbands it’s a nice experience why is it that men have the endurance of till death do us part and yet many women have the endurance limited to their emotions like boredom you have to take the red pill like I did which is simply seeing
That you are the problem as long as it’s your husband that is the problem or men that are the problem you will never change and you will stay stuck in your woman waves and it’s simple how we are the problem is that we have low emotional intelligence we have not been
Taught to be in control of our emotional state in a constructive way that allows us to make conscious choices about who we want to be and how we want to respond it’s just this you know even though I haven’t had intimacy with a partner in 6 years and I
Have never once orgasmed with any of my intimacy Partners I love intimacy I love being close to someone feeling their body and especially knowing that they want to be close to me and make me want to feel loved because it makes them happy that I’m happy there is no greater
Nor more intimate Human Experience and I feel that modernity has inadvertently decimated the importance of this in two broad ways intimacy is either hyperbolized or romanticized the hyperbolizing is stereotypically there to serve men whereas the romanticization is stereotypically there to serve woman and in all of this there
Is no room for the realities of intimacy and I think that when we are then faced with the realities of intimacy its confusion its discomfort its vulnerabilities and exposure its difficulties its awkwardness its selfishness but importantly I think its selflessness we end up being pretty horrible to each other and I have seen
This manifesting itself rather beautifully online I asked my Twitter whether men need after I was recommended a video that has recently gone viral this video was put out by a YouTube channel and website called the happy wife School run by formally and happy wife who in her own words emasculated
Her husband Karen sits her channel is branded as being the red pill for woman and of course she selles courses you can learn everything that you need to know from this as she calls herself happiness expert for a mere $6,500 of course after branding herself as an expert and a happiness expert you
Can find with a lot of searching the following disclaimer on her website Karen sites and the happy wife School are not engaged in the practice of psychotherapy clinical counseling or any medical practice you should not interpret any part of my videos as traditional psychological medical or emotional therapy curent sites is not a
Licensed health professional you should seek help for any specific psychological medical or emotional problems with a mental health professional or qualified physician this after in her videos she denigrates these professions and their methods sadly as women we will also drag our husbands to couples counseling convince the therapist of our story of
How our husband mistreats us the therapist buys into the story because they’re not trained to see it any other way and then they falsely accuse the husband of being a narcissist the the concept of interdependence it’s like I said it sounds great like of course that’s how a healthy relationship needs
To go and of course that’s what it needs to look at but here’s the problem with it this is another therapy model that is taught in a classroom and then tried to be transer over into teaching this in therapy or coup’s therapy but there’s no practicality to it today I want to talk
About a video I recently came across from Esther Perell who is a world-renowned relationship expert and couples therapist where she talks about the biggest reasons that a relationship fails quite frankly she gets it all wrong as many relationship experts do what I find interesting about Karen’s
Courses and her website as well as her General message is that she continually stipulates that genuine change and happiness not just for you but in your marriage and relationship with your partner is found exclusively within you she typically uses herself as an example of this in that she found the answer to
Improving her marriage within herself not within modern conveniences like feminism therapy meditation Etc however interestingly the way that you are going to find the change within you is via her and her $6,500 course something doesn’t align but that is the gist of everything that Karen site stands for but I think
The happy wife School represents something both fascinating and daunting about our modern conversations and relations to sex number one patriarchal societies and Norms aren’t compatible with modernization now I’m not one of those woman who believes that you can blame the patriarchy for everything in fact I don’t believe in the patriarchy
At all I am a feminist but I’m not a political feminist I am a philosophical feminist which means that I am a devout follower of Simon Dua and that is basically the only feminism that I refer to that of existentialist feminism the writings of Simon De bua exclusively so
I don’t believe in this idea of the patriarchy I know a lot of modern feminists or at least from second wave feminist onwards to the present don’t subscribe to a lot of what Simon Dua says mainly because of something that she said in the second sex which is that
Women are partly responsible for their own oppression that they often choose to feed into this idea of being vulnerable of needing men for their advantage and because patriarchy or because being oppressed or under the oppression of men serves them in many ways and that this is something that women have to
Reconcile themselves to something that they have to um fight against if they so wish it’s something that they have to deal with and that it is something that women had to deal with on their own they are very philosophical as opposed to political undertones to a lot of what
Simon DEA wrote and had to say about woman and feminism and that is obviously no fun the beauty of politics is that you can blame everybody else for everything that is wrong in your life whereas with philosophy you only have yourself to really blame and therefore
You have to be the source of your own self-discovery or your own Liberation as it were it’s a lot more difficult it’s not as fun and of course as humans we typically look for the easy way out so when I say that we have as a result of choosing modernity we have abandoned
Patriarchy I mean that quite literally I don’t believe that we live in a patriarchal society anymore we live in a modern society we live in a modern and increasing I suppose postmodern society and this is because of a theoretical choice that was made I think it is a
Choice that is not necessarily a choice that we’ve wholeheartedly made but sort of just the way that the course of history has happened in predominantly modern Western societies that of modernization and ironically modernization was largely pushed by said historical patriarchal men as a way in which to induce progress as an extension
Of themselves in the world in the material world and as a result workers had to specialize in skills they had to become better at a particular specialized skill and trade increasingly workers had to learn to read and to write and I think most importantly and crucially children of both sexes were
Increasingly seen not as little adults but as children distinct from adulthood modern ation increasingly exposed that children had to be protected from the harsh realities and the harshness of adulthood and in this it wasn’t just adults that needed to be educated but increasingly so the universal child had
To be educated and this wasn’t just boys but also girls and increasingly women and girls going to school learning how to read and write became women and girls of all social classes going to University and morphed into woman taking on roles within a modernizing Workforce a Workforce that due to modernization
Created new diverse roles and required more workers more minds and more bodies without wom working a lot of the modern Industries professions and services that we take for granted wouldn’t be where they are but there is a lot of clear fustration that particularly young men are experiencing in this post
Patriarchal society that we live in this post patriarchal society that is now very much so a very clearcut modern society likes to sell things to its consumers whether that be selling them the myth that patriarchal ideals can be readily realized and are compatible with modernization or whether it be selling
The myth that it is possible to get back to a point in which patriarchal society and mores reigned Supreme I think in the name of whatever you define as progress a tradeoff was made and to be fair as a woman I think that this trade-off was a
Very good one and I think that inevitably during times of tumultuous change and alterations in Social Fabrics in the way that people understand a world that is very much changing in the western context where we don’t really have any spiritual underpinning that unifies and unites all of us under an
Idea of where we should be or what we should be striving toward it is no wonder that we are fustrated that we are angry that we are disillusioned and so I think that this is that time of change that sadly I think jenz is the generation that is going through it the
Most and uh the worst so that is just the first point that I wanted to make a first point that is this idea that we are living in a modern society as opposed to a patriarchal society I don’t believe that modernity As We Know It And as it has been realized is compatible
With patriarchy and with this idea that the patriarchy Reigns Supreme the patriarchy serves political feminists as the same kind of Boogyman that feminism serves to the red pull that feminism serves to a lot of political figures today who are trying to find a very easy and clearcut explanation and excuse for
Why everything is a marck and wrong number two we don’t take sex seriously do pardon my rather artistic appearance but I am on my way to a roller disco and my sole objective is to attract as many Butch lesbians to me as possible in this video I’m going to be addressing a
Question or a more so declarative statement that I have been seeing online quite a lot recently I don’t know if it’s just because of the cold weather and cold season that is making people seek warmth in the arms of others but it is a thing that is happening and it is
Something that intrigues me and I think is very important to speak about because I think it is leading us into territory that we otherwise would not intend but I also think that it is leading us into territory that is very counterproductive and counterintuitive to what men and
Women yearn for and want most which is for somebody to see them at their most vulnerable for somebody to see them at their most authentic and as their most authentic selves and I think that one of the most vulnerable and most meaningful ways in which another person can
Validate and see us authentically and honestly is through the act of intimacy and the declarative statement that I’ve been seeing incessantly online as of late is men need physical intimacy now of course I can do the very very typical video essay’s thing of breaking down
Each word of this but I think we can get the gist of this the idea being perpetuated and that is being claimed is that intimacy physical intimacy is a necessity for men and the underlying idea of this is that in the Modern Age modern women specifically young women
And specifically women who have been married to a man for a prolonged period of time are purposefully withhold holding physical intimacy from their male Partners as a way of either controlling the relationship controlling the man because women are seemingly innately sexless or have less pleasure or less need for pleasure and desire
That once a woman traps or gets a man into her pesky little claws she has no incentive or interest in being intimate or physical with her male partner and therefore this argument has its main followers or its main advocates in no doubt and of course the red pill how often do you expect
Sex because because a lot of people have these ideas in relationships and it’s different than marriage so I’m curious from your point of view to me and this is going to sound a bit wild but I just don’t ever her don’t ever expect her to
Say no if I want to have sex that is the deal that we’ve made is as being married and you don’t want me to do with anyone else then that’s what I should do and that seems to work literally on demand is what I’d say I think it actually just
Comes down to the guy sometimes he just wants to he’s just he’s stressed he needs to release that energy and he’s going to and the wife is his release so at that point it needs to be on demand if the guy has a buildup he wants to
Release it well I mean you can’t like I can’t turn on the water facet on demand you know what I mean then give head okay I’m not sure with this one because after I’ve seen a girl for a while it tends to be be her who’s always wonning
It and I’m a bit like I don’t want to be like there’s a reason for oh that means that she’s attracted to you that’s good there’s a reason for that though because scientifically men’s sex drive declines as they age whereas women’s increases as they age now as I’ve tried to make clear
On this channel I am not a red pull woman at all I do not believe that we are going to find any meaning or happiness in codling what has become a very resentful community of predominantly men young men and I also don’t think that we are going to find
Any answers nor any meaning nor any explanations in blaming all the ills of the modern world valid ills of the modern world on one group of people which Always and has since the beginning of History always been woman and specifically young woman this easy and I think very lazy explanation has done
Nothing for men nor for society since the beginning of time it hasn’t resolved anything because inevitably you’re not going to resolve anything by looking for an explanation that is not an explanation but I think we also need to appreciate that being adults and being human beings and specifically modern
Human beings means that we have to appreciate that we are not always going to get what we want and that life really is not as simple as we like to imagine it is and this most definitely includes physical intim and you know I think the very puritanical and I would argue the male
Centered notion and I don’t mean male centered in a negative sense I mean male centered in the way that it is often the burden of men when it comes to this idea that sex is something that you just know that it needn’t be leared that you needn’t necessarily even communicate
About it because it is just an innate thing that inevitably as I said men or the male centered IND individual knows and will always know we have therefore neglected the very important thing about anything that involves being a human being and progressing through the Days of Our Lives which is that we are
Constantly learning we are constantly unknowing and we are constantly being exposed to new things about ourselves new things about our abilities and capabilities and we have to do the grueling work and effort of trying to accommodate that very fact about ourselves and sex is no different since
The 1960s we have been living in a very particular zist which I think can be summed up as follows we have two extremes of sex on the one hand we have sexual Liberation which at least since the 2000s has really become a matter of sexual Liberation equating to the increased positive commercialization of
Sexuality and sexualization by commercial sexualization I don’t just mean the obvious things that we see today such as the proliferation of and the positive or increasingly positive connotations associated with female empowerment meaning and equating to sexual empowerment and being far more sexually open and sexually positive what I especially mean is the entertainment
Value that is increasingly being ass associated with sex oh my goodness my breath is showing I feel like there are Dementors gradually approaching this room sex is seemingly everywhere you see it in everything you see it on social media you see it in advertising you see
It no matter how hard you try to avoid it but this sex is entertainment it is there to attract an audience to attract especially a male audience in order to make money and make profit and therefore it isn’t necessarily what it is often equated to and what I think we often
Take for granted this idea that our increased exposure to sex to the physicality and the physical aspect of sex equates to sexual education and I think this is a problem that we have that we have seen sexual Liberation being almost made synonymous to this idea that it is sexual education the
Most obvious example of this is how overwhelmingly young people inevitably seek out sexual education via explicit content online the lack of resources or meaningful resources surrounding not just the dangers of having sex and STDs and St but very importantly the thing which most people would like to I hope
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Very harmful assumption that men need sex now I was very interested in the results that I got from asking some of my Twitter followers whether they believe that men need sex when asked do men need sex 52% of men said yes whereas only 29% said no and of the woman who
Were asked 6% said yes whereas 13% said no in my opinion for men sex is so important because it is the way that they feel validated it is the way that they are able to actually Bond and connect with somebody whereas I think that with wom we have far more avenues
For feeling validated for bonding and connecting with other people I think we are permitted that connection to intimacy from a far greater spectrum of people and experiences than men are on the other hand I think that male sexuality and pleasure has been something that societies from the beginning of time have taken seriously
And have prioritized Above All Else whereas female sexuality and desire and pleasure is something that not even in our modern context people willingly take seriously or even are willing to try and understand in that I think you have your answer to why sex is perceived as a need
For men relative to it being seen as a need so much for women because of the fact that a good fact on the one hand women have found and are able to and are encouraged to find other avenues for affection validation and seeking and finding Womanhood whether that be in
Friendships in family relationships in being good motherly figures in society or just being mothers as well and connecting and bonding with their children Etc and a negative component which is a component that I think contributes to a lot of the increasing disconnect that women and men are having
Among each other which is that our desire and us as beings with desire and pleasure is not taken seriously whatsoever the happy wife School exemplifies this perfectly in everything that she has to say about her assumption that women don’t enjoy sex and that it is therefore an obligation and a duty
For us to enjoy sex even if we don’t want to have sex sex is how your husband feels loved and respected your husband is not a woman he is a man and sex is incredibly important to a man and it’s where we miss each other and and and and and just
Go totally different ways as as as husband and wives running thread in this whole video that vexes me so so much and why I really implore any woman who may think that this is the answer to never ever take advice from this woman please
I beg of you to never if I have one thing to say for the rest of my life it’s to never take advice from Karen s sites please save your money save your time save your integrity and your selfworth please do not she makes these declarative statements the these
Declarative statements that sex is number one on a man’s list of priorities in a relationship where it will be number eight or 10 for a woman she makes these statements but she never says why and she never asks Why there is no curiosity at all there is no sort of understanding as in why sex may be a way in which a man feels respected and validated but why isn’t this the case for woman why is it that sex may not be number one thing for a
Woman of course I don’t believe that it is the case I think that she is living in her own sort of reality about sex based on her own sex drive and her own experience which is all well and good but I think she should clarify that as opposed to generalizing her experience
In order to make statements that are very very harmful and what happens is that it we begin to treat our husbands like neanderthals and that there’s something wrong with them that sex is so important to them and we want want to change them and make them so wrong for just who they
Are as a man I think we get somewhat of an explanation from two sources from the perspective of woman especially I think the one source is looking at what is called the orgasm Gap when you look at at the orgasm Gap it is quite significant and it is quite telling of
Something that I think nobody really wants to talk about because we have no means of very honestly and seriously talking about sex at least no means that are actually promoted but in some the orgasm Gap is as follows 95% of heterosexual men orgasm basically every single time they have sexual intercourse
Whereas 66% to 65% of bisexual and heterosexual women respectively orgasm now this Gap most definitely is not as large as it was even 10 years ago 10 years ago I believe it was at about 75% and I’m sure as we go back in history it was probably far far bigger than that in
Comparison when women self-pleasure themselves they orgasm 95% of the time and the Gap is closed now I’d say that the obvious vious reason why the orgasm Gap closes when women please themselves is because women know or get to know their Anatomy through self-pleasure and through discovering their bodies and in
This way we take our bodies seriously we take our pleasure seriously and we understand what gives us pleasure yet a common experience with women was put very well by Louise Perry in a recent debate about the sexual Revolution we don’t really live in a free sexual
Culture right I mean Sarah talked at the beginning about women in the past um before orgasms were invented having painful unwanted sex women are still having painful unwanted sex it’s just having painful unwanted sex like that’s basically the only difference I’m serious like the number of teenagers who are having like
Thoroughly miserable sexual experiences in the name of Liberation is astonishing I think we’ve basically just seen a flip it used to be they were stigmatized for being [ __ ] and now they’re stigmatized for being PRS it’s the same same thing women especially young women are having
Bad sex and have bad sex and this is all because sex is just not taken seriously sex education is not taken seriously at all sex is the one thing where people assume that you just know what it is and it’ll just work out and that most definitely is not the case when you
Consider how terrible young people are increasingly proving themselves to be at communicating with each other how incredibly polarized We are Becoming from one another it is no wonder that we are also having less sex and that when we are having sex we are having pretty miserable sex especially on the part of
Women you chose to get married and and you made vows and you made a a commitment to your husband you took on the role and responsibility to have sex in your marriage and enjoy it as a part of a healthy relationship everything that Karen sit says about enjoying yourself
About having an obligation to enjoy yourself is completely antithetical to the very experience of being a human being this makes absolutely no sense and this is actually one of the stupidest things I have ever heard in my life it pains me to call a woman who is older
Than me and whom I ought to respect stupid but this is really so stupid very stupid and it is very telling to me why comment section of this video is 99.9% disgruntled angry men who are resentful of either their wives their Partners or of the woman who they
Believe they should be entitled to have sex with and not a single woman who is agreeing with her whatsoever you know I like to think of this as an analogy to something which I love which is roller skating I’m a very passionate roller skater I’ve been roller skating for well
Over 5 years now and what I’ve noticed in seeing other people start roller skating and doing roller skating is that the majority of people will start it and be very enthusiastic about it and then they suddenly stop or they gradually lose enthusiasm for RIS skating and I
Never see them again now why is this based on the sort of idea of reality and of woman’s desire that Karen sits has her explanation would be that these former roller skaters just didn’t like roller skating but that they must roller skate and they must enjoy it it is their
Duty because they signed a contract with the roller skating rink that they must enjoy it and that they must roller skate once every single day that they must be enthusiastic participants in roller skating even though they don’t enjoy it even though they are not having fun when
They doing it now there are a plethora of reasons why people who formerly roller skated no longer roller skate but in my mind just based on what I see over the last 5 years it sort of boils down to one very obvious thing when you think about it I don’t believe that people
Stop roller skating because they don’t enjoy roller skating they stop roller skating because something is preventing them from enjoying roller skating and what that typically boils down to is their roller skates when people see roller skates they just see well this when I see roller skates I see a barrel
Bushing a top Bush cup a Kingpin an axle a top bushing cap a barrel bushing my truck or I guess in the US you call them a hanger my conical bushing my bottom Bush cup my bottom bushing cup my Kingpin nut my toe stop my jam plugs my
Axle nuts my nuts my bolts my bearings my bearing spaces my lace hooks I see all these individual parts that need to be eventually customized to my foot to my needs and to what makes me feel comfortable and what makes me a better skater and I kid you not when I say that
This has taken me years to get and to understand I work on my skates at least once a week because I need to adjust them to how my feet are feeling that week sometimes my feet are a bit more swollen than usual depending on whether it is winter or summer my feet need
Added support my ankles need less or more support if I’m skating at the skate park my ankles need less support so I have to change how I’ve laced up my boot I have to change which lace hooks I’m using I have to change my hanger or my trucks depending on what surface I’m
Skating on and this is something that I think is not appreciated this is something which falls under the umbrella of Education Under the Umbrella of the tedious stuff that you need to know in order to make the activity itself roller skating or in this case this is an analogy sex enjoyable because for
Instance when somebody stops roller skating because they have a traumatic fall which is what commonly happens somebody falls on their roller skates and it’s traumatizing it really is similarly to how somebody can have a bad sexual experience and it traumatizes them and like with the roller skater Who
Falls they decide to stop doing it all together or they can’t bring themselves to do it which is a very natural bodily and physical response it isn’t something that anybody should be shamed for a roller skap or a woman and sex or what have you but the explanation is not that
Given by the happy wife school that you just don’t enjoy roller skating that you just don’t enjoy sex as a woman and this doesn’t just apply to roller skating this applies to anything and everything that we as humans do a lot of our experiences are determined by the
Arsenal and the tools that we have as well as the environment that we are in honestly knowing the difference between a 101a and a 78 a will has transformed my life and I believe that it would have transformed so many roller skaters lives and I just give this elaborate analogy
Because I think the happy wife School falls into this trap I think she conveniently falls into it because well it’s how she sells her courses but I think that a lot of people not just her but especially her audience fall into this trap of perceiving woman not prioritizing sex as therefore meaning
That women don’t enjoy sex that our desire works so antithetically to men that sex is a need for them but seemingly not a need for us in terms of bonding and connecting and loving and feeling loved by someone let we make it very very clear you cannot have a
Healthy marriage you cannot have a healthy relationship if you are not having sex with your husband or you are shut down to sex and doing it as an obligation in a chore it’s not okay and and you can’t have a healthy relationship relationship or a healthy marriage from that place we
All know sex is part of a healthy relationship and this is the other thing that I just find absolutely mind-numbing about this video and about everything that our dear friend what’s her name Karen sites is saying not once in this video does she make what I think is
A crucial distinction between sex and good sex and I think this is something that is missed from all of this because of this thing that we do which is to prioritize male desire and male sexuality in well everything that is all well and good but if we want to have
Relation relationships with each other if we want to have Partners who we can be intimate with and can have loving healthy relationships with we need to not prioritize our desire exclusively we need to think about the person that we are with and we need to prioritize their desire as well it is completely
Antithetical to all reason that a woman would want to have sex with a man when that sex is bad who on Earth would want to do that who would want to have sex that is painful who would want to have sex that is traumatic I can tell you
That when I have had sex oh man the things that I have done in order to please a man is um very degrading and very humiliating something that in no way makes me feel like I’m being respected whilst having sex something that makes me feel like an
Object that has made me bleed and I think our culture cult especially for young women means that these are things that we are expected to do having bad sex having uncomfortable having explicit content like sex is deemed as something that a woman just has to put up with a
Woman just has to do women typically when they are having intimacy with a partner fall into one of two categories I’d say that this is more so young woman I’ve definitely fallen into both categories on the one hand you have sex with the partner there and you believe
That it will get better that it will get better as you get to know each other more as you get to understand what having sex with them is like and so you have hope that the situation sexually will improve that it will get better because it is just an obvious thing that
Sex is not going to be great all the time or that you know you’re not going to be in the mood all the time like you know the mood in your own head like that you are totally in this whatever life is hard life is complex on the other hand
You are so enamored with somebody you love them and they are such a wonderful person and they show you such care such affection such you know kindness as a human being or they are your partner who you just love and adore that even though the sex isn’t brilliant you can Overlook
It it’s not something that is a deal breaker exactly and I do think that most women fall into one of these two categories for at least a part of their journey to self-discovery sexually and I don’t think that this is a bad thing but I do think that this is a telling thing
Of how communication is so difficult I think as wom we are definitely taught not to express such things I am definitely very ashamed or embarrassed by my sexuality by the fact that I am a sexual being and the idea of speaking to any of my previous male Partners about
My sexuality or telling them that actually I didn’t enjoy that I didn’t orgasm from that would have completely destroyed my will to live as a very young woman and it is because we are scared it is because we are scared to voice such things it’s because voicing
Such things is not something that a woman is meant to do you’re meant to just fake it and women are very good at faking it but I think that things are improving in the way of the orgasm Gap are telling that things are hopefully improving and that they will start to
Improve and get better and that’s the sad reality of sex with your wife is that she used sex to get married and once she trapped you there was no reason for sex anymore the sad fact is that a good man or after a woman marries a good man all
He’s good for is being a sperm donor and for Financial Security and all the facade of being into you of being passionate about you of loving you and can’t wait to get together to be with you that facade drops because we got what we wanted and
For most of us as women when we become disinterested in Sex and we stop having sex we will hold on enough to string you along so that’s where we’ll have sex once a month or twice a month and we’ll string you along for that Financial Security and or for
Having children and that was sadly my experience I can tell you factually women and self- pleas themselves as much as men do they really do as a girl who was in a South African boarding school and even though I did not know what was
Back then I now know what it is and I now know exactly what was going on in my boarding school I can tell you that uh it was a frenzy women and especially young girls learn from a very very early age from either their parents or from
Society at large that female desire is either a myth that it’s something that should be countered or suppressed or is just something that we should be ashamed of this is sort of the remnants of this idea of Hysteria which has regrettably still found itself very much a part of
Our lives today as such according to Karen sites female desire is definitely not a need this is categorically false and this is something that people are very uncomfortable with a few days ago I made a tweet and the Tweet was as follows and you can read what I said as
Well I’ll put that on screen right now but what I found most interesting about this tweet and the responses that I got was that not one man who responded could actually answer my question and of course I don’t blame men I don’t blame men for this I don’t blame young men for
This we all have our problems we all have a lot of things that we are going through all all I am trying to say and what I was trying to say was that if we want to have meaningful healthy sexual relationships with each other we have to
Put in the effort we have to put in the time we have to communicate and we have to understand the bodies of the other not just the generic body which was ultimately what my tweet was about more so just even the generic body which is like the bare minimum but the specific
Body the specific woman body the specific male body Etc I can tell you that woman including myself yearn for desire sex and intimacy just as much as men do just because it manifests itself in different ways at different times and different contexts it doesn’t mean that it isn’t there it doesn’t mean that
Woman don’t have pleasure don’t want that pleasure to be met I can assure you we do think about sex love intimacy pleasure constantly as as well when we have sex from a place of obligation or as a chore we feel used we feel resentful and we’re doing what we’re
Supposed to do that’s a Wonder actually a wonderful example of being nice is is doing sex to to check the box and and say done maybe I bought myself a week or two and then shutting down that’s not okay in a marriage it’s not that’s a cruel cruel way to treat
Your husband who is the man in which this is very important to him how are you meant to enjoy sex and enjoy a healthy relationship when you’re not having one one of the main reasons for women filing divorce is because of something called unreasonable behavior now when you look into the examples of
Unreasonable behavior I found it very telling and interesting why the following was listed the most common examples of unreasonable behavior are as follows domestic abuse excess iive or lack of sex unreasonable sexual demands inappropriate Association or relationship with another person debt or financial recklessness verbal abuse shouting or belittling social isolation
Excessive or lack of socializing and drunkenness now what I found very interesting was unreasonable sexual demands as well as excessive or lack of sex now all of these in my opinion represent something that could really be deduced to a lack of respect it’s interesting how in a marriage or
Relationship it’s about cooperation it’s about mutuality reciprocity why is it that a man’s respect is the thing that is Paramount but respecting a woman is not why is it that you have to have sex with your husband or your partner and enjoy it even though they may be making
Unreasonable sexual demands on you even though the sex may be painful even though your partner may not be interested that you as a woman have a cervix that is constantly moving that you have hormones which mean that your desire and that your sexual drive is altering quite frequently that you may
Be on medication whether it be anti-depressant for instance or HRT drugs or on birth control which Alters your hormones incessantly if you are in a relationship or a marriage which has any facet of unreasonable behavior how are you meant to enjoy having sex with your partner when they may be abusing
You when they may be harming you when they may be isolating themselves or isolating you where they may be exhibiting antisocial Behavior if somebody is verbally abusing you or belittling you how are you meant to enjoy having sex with them so much responsibility for a marriage and for a
Partnership is burdened and and I mean burdened on woman when a relationship is not meant to be a burden it’s not meant to be something that is associated with duties and responsibilities but something that is a partnership it’s teamwork you work together you compromise together you make decisions
Together one thing that I find really interesting is that in all of this that the happy wife school is saying there is no consideration of something that I think is often just taken for granted about bodies about woman’s bodies a modern woman’s body is meant to be a
Vessel of pleasure for her partner it is meant to be a vessel of life for carrying children for giving birth to children for feeding children and nourishing children it is meant to be a vessel for modern society to thrive as a tool and resource for modern society in
The workplace and it is meant to be a vessel of housekeeping and house Main maintenance in the way of doing most of the household chores and labor our body is put through a lot and I mean a lot and this is something that I have noticed especially with young men online
I wouldn’t say young men in the real world I do like to distinguish between the internet and real life I know a lot of people don’t like to but I have faith and hope I think this is something that has taken greatly for granted the real trauma that our bodies go through
Throughout the days of our lives and I think it’s you know a phenomenal thing it’s absolutely phenomenal what our bodies can do what our bodies are made to do but it is also something that is so fragile and I think is really not respected in that way just as a side
Note I just know in my comment section I’m going to get a lot of very upset men saying yes but what about men’s bodies and just because I’m talking about women’s bodies it does not mean that I am comparing them to men’s bodies I think a big problem that we have in
Modern societies is that we do not take men’s Sexual Health seriously at all either in terms of prostate and testicular cancer in terms of prostate health it’s really something that is neglected and not taken seriously at all until it happens so please just understand that and just cuz I’m talking
About one thing it does not mean that I completely disregard or don’t care about the other thing so that is all I have for you today because I cannot endure any more of the happy wife’s school and at least based on the comment sections I am thrilled to report that the majority
Of women can’t endure her either this kind of redpol content is of course very popular at the moment but I do implore you to really be very critical of all and any content coming from somebody who presents themselves as an expert and clearly isn’t and somebody who presents
Themselves as an expert on something and just gives you declarative statements without in any way showing a modim of curiosity as to why that declarative statement is being put forward thank you so much for watching this video thank you to all of my patrons thank you for
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